
Michael Tymn decided to drive to California to pick up his mother, Margaret, for what turned out to be their last Thanksgiving together. Perhaps he knew, on some level, that she was not long of this world and hoped to connect with her again before she passed.
“My mother, Margaret, died in my arms the day after Thanksgiving 2003. She was 87 and suffering from severe dementia, the result of a number of strokes in preceding years. It is not what she said, but the tone in which she said it, that stands out in my memory.
We were living in Depoe Bay, Oregon and my mother was in a rest home in Berkeley, California. Even though she was not mentally competent and gave no indication she recognized me or my wife, Gina, we decided to drive down to Berkeley and bring Mom back to Oregon for Thanksgiving. We had a fairly large bedroom and were able to squeeze an extra bed into it so that we could keep an eye on Mom.
The night before she died, Mom was jabbering away constantly. I could not make out what she was saying, as it was all gibberish, but it sounded like she was pleading with someone or arguing with someone through most of the gibberish. After we awoke that morning, Gina prepared Mom for the car trip back to Berkeley. I was in the process of carrying her from the upstairs bedroom down to the ground floor, one step at a time, walking sideways, when I saw her eyes roll back in her head and her head fall back a little. She apparently gave up the ghost at that time.
In retrospect, I think all the pleading or arguing during the night was one of two things:
1) She was pleading with deceased loved ones to help her leave the body; or
2) She was so afraid of dying that she was arguing with them, telling them that he didn’t want to leave the body.”
Perhaps Margaret was afraid, or perhaps she was arguing for just enough time to see her son the morning before her death. Communicating with the unseen is very common in the end of life as are utterances that sound like gibberish or may be confusing to loved ones.
One thing is for certain; Margaret is now free of her dementia, the restrictions of her body and any pain she may have felt. For Michael and Margaret, the synchronicity of being able to see one another before Margaret’s passing, was a beautiful gift to both of them.
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Paul Perry writes about telepathic communication in The University of Heaven's blog Illuminating. Come visit Lisa Smartt and Raymond Moody's new online educational platform.